Thursday, October 2nd, 2014
In a recent moment of self-honesty, I realized that I was not bringing my “A” game to my speaking business. I didn’t want to do the things I had set to get done and I was starting to let too many obligations and tasks slide.
Have you ever felt like that? Like you didn’t have the motivation to continue and everything feels like a chore? Like a balloon that has been deflated, as if your passion has been released from your body, leaving you lifeless and flat?
That is essentially where I was. I had a to-do list a mile long and I didn’t feel like doing any of it. How was I going to move forward?
As I was pondering how to re-motivate myself so that my professional dreams once again became my reality, I thought of other areas of my life that I was staying true to despite my lack of energy. My fitness routine suddenly came to mind.
I meet with a personal trainer once a week and then complete the two workouts he creates for me for the rest of the week even though I can think of hundreds of things I’d rather be doing than sweating and feeling like my heart is going to pound out of my chest. Why? Because he holds me accountable.
I know I have to show up to my session because he will be waiting for me and if I didn’t do the other two workouts, he’d know. He forces me to stick with my own personal goals in a way that if I let myself down, I would be letting him down too. It is the same Buddy System I have spoken about hundreds of times before, but now I was the one who could benefit from it more than ever.
So, my first line of business was to come up with a buddy who would hold me accountable. I wanted to find someone who I trusted to help me reach my goals. Someone who loves me and wants to see me succeed. Someone who I didn’t want to let down. That someone was my son.
There was no way I was going to hand my 21 year old son some lame excuse as to why his father didn’t achieve something he’d set out to do, which made him the perfect buddy to have. I didn’t want to disappoint myself but, perhaps more importantly, I didn’t want to disappoint him.
When choosing your own buddy, it may seem like a good idea to select your spouse or significant other, but I strongly advise against it. This person, even though they love you and you love them, can trigger your not-so-positive qualities. Therefore, you’re better off going with someone else for this very important position.
Another tip is to stay away from someone who is a “yes” person. You want someone who is going to hold you accountable even if it is uncomfortable to do so. Someone who isn’t afraid to say, “Hey! You’re not doing what you said you would!”
Fortunately, I can say that relying on the buddy system has boosted my accountability tremendously and I am back to being productive and getting things done. My to-do list is whittling down in size as I cross more and more items off of it, making me happy that I am accomplishing my goals one step at a time.
Who is the person that you are going to rely on to help you live your YOUlogy? It’s time to set your buddy and reach your goals too!